Resentment

January 22, 2016 By aidarojas

Hurt, Anger, & Unmet Needs ( Star Wars Yoda Quote )

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Hello Graceful Forgiver!

Today we will talk about anger. The real root of anger is an unmet need or expectation, and all it really means is that you need to have a conversation. This could be a conversation with yourself or with the person who you are angry at. The point is not to lash out at people, but to further understand your needs and theirs. Oftentimes we may be in situation where we are wanting a specific need to be met, but the other person also needs that need met. This can lead to anger, frustration, hurt, and maybe even hate if you allow the feelings to fester.

Finding ways to meet our own needs or finding people who are willing and able to, we can begin to release our expectations on the other person.From the wise words of Master Yoda : “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” If someone has hurt you, or left you hanging, find a way to let it go. Holding on to anger and hurt, or coming with ways to get back at the other person, will not help you in the long run.

Do your very best to find forgiveness, understanding, and compassion. This will allow you to move on with your life in peace. Learn from the situation, and do whatever it takes to move past it. In the long run this will make you stronger and more resilient, and it will also help you know more about your needs, and the people you need to associate yourself with to get them met. Remember to always look at the bright side!

( NOTE: Stay TUNED! Although there will be a new podcast only on Friday’s for the next few weeks, Season 2 of Love Dream Live is coming soon! ** Late February ** ) – Aida : )

November 13, 2015 By aidarojas

The Importance of Having Good Friendships

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Hello Friendly Spirit,

Having great friendships makes the world a better place, and makes life more happy and enjoyable. Making new friends and building lasting bonds is easier when you know yourself and what you are looking for in a good friend. Everyone has their own definition of a good friend, so today I will share mine, and hopefully shed some light on how important it is to know your own needs. My best friend in the world is an excellent listener and he makes me laugh. I believe that the most important gift you can give anyone is your time and full attention, people who can do that make good friends, at least from my point of view. Think about this when you are making new friends, be aware of what you need and it will help you find people who compliment you and have the potential to be lifetime friends. Which are really the very best to have. : )

August 26, 2015 By aidarojas

Treat Me Like Me, Give Me The Chance To Be On Your Side

Hey There!

So in today’s episode I show the “ranty” side of myself as I share a personal story where someone I truly value treated me like I was their ex. Our personal relationships can be challenging, and we have defense mechanisms that we develop in our attempt to try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again. Instead of trying to heal and work through these wounds we get into new relationships, and the same things happen with different people. I encourage you to treat each individual for who they are, and not for the reactions that they trigger in you, due to your past negative experiences.

Give people the benefit of the doubt, maybe they weren’t aware they were offending or hurting you. Look at the current situation, and the current person, and address the issue at hand. Consider the fact that they may want to be on your side, if you give them the chance to. Don’t assume and get defensive, work through it, heal and learn to treat people for who they really are.

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